Lately, I’ve been noticing how I move through the world.
The way I clench my fists before I even register stress.
The way I cross my left foot over right even in moments that don’t feel threatening.
The way I often brace instead of surrender.
It made me wonder: how much of this is me—and how much did I pick up?
Because none of us chose our nervous system.
We inherited it.
From the way your mother braced when she heard bad news.
From the silence your father used as a shield.
From the chaos you absorbed without context.
From the tension that was never named but always there.
Before we had language, we had reactions.
Before we had choice, we had modeling.
And if our caregivers didn’t feel safe, regulated, or emotionally held—then how in the world could we?
As children, most of us are not taught about the power and fragility of the nervous system. No one teaches us how to rest, or regulate, or listen, or excavate, or rage, or process, or integrate, or tune into our bodies. No one teaches us that our reactions aren’t our personalities—they are our protection.
In today’s episode of Unreachable, we’re talking about:
What You Inherited
Your nervous system was shaped by generational trauma, cultural norms, family roles, and unspoken rules. If your parents avoided conflict, then you might freeze. If love felt earned, then you might overachieve. If emotions were unsafe, you might shut down—or explode.How It Shows Up Today
These inherited patterns don’t always look like trauma. They look like perfectionism. People-pleasing. Shutting down when you're overwhelmed. Dysregulation. Hustling for worth. Never quite feeling safe, even when everything looks okay.How to Rewire It
You can’t think your way into safety—you have to feel your way there. In this episode, we share tools that help you become a safe place by:
→ Orienting to safety with your senses
→ Slowing down urgency
→ Talking to yourself like someone who matters
→ Practicing presence even when dysregulated
→ Creating Unreachable windows of stillness, solitude, and sovereigntyWhat Changes When You Do
You stop reacting.
You start responding.
You feel your feet on the ground.
You remember your own pace.
You stop bracing for something to go wrong.
And finally, you feel safe—in you.
Journal on This:
What kind of nervous system(s) did you grow up around and with?
What did love, safety, and rest look like in your childhood home?
What parts of your wiring might not be yours to carry anymore?
Go Deeper
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The patterns in your body didn’t begin with you.
But you get to decide how they end.
We’re so glad you’re here.
With reverence,
Rea + Alex
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