A few weeks ago, I received an unexpected message from a trusted friend and intuitive. Her words struck something deep and unguarded inside. She alerted me to the fact that someone very close in my life was siphoning my energy.
And my money. And my success. And my time. That this person was mirroring me, embedding so deeply in my life, that I wasn’t even aware of it.
CUE THE PANIC.
I could feel the truth of her words settle into my bones, heavy and undeniable.
Suddenly, I could trace the root of her warning back to its very source—the days I spent engaging in a constant support role for this person, exchanging voice notes most of the day. I was giving so much energy, I wasn’t aware of the source of my depletion. It was a moment of raw clarity: I wasn’t just tired; I was energetically bankrupt.
Who Is Siphoning Your Energy?
This question spun in my mind for days. I started to examine every interaction, every space I occupied, and every person I allowed into my inner circle. Energy vampires aren’t always the obvious, toxic personalities we instinctively avoid. Sometimes, they’re the people we love—the ones we justify, forgive, and defend because the alternative is too painful to admit.
But pretending doesn’t change the truth.
I began to map out my energy, tracing it back to the people, activities, and screens that left me drained. The realization was harsh: I had been leaking energy to people who were never going to give it back.
The Art of Energetic Boundaries
So, I made a decision: to become Unreachable to bad energy. To stop explaining, justifying, or excusing why I needed distance and silence.
I started with small steps:
Muting notifications from certain contacts.
Not responding immediately to every text.
Limiting conversations that left me feeling heavy instead of whole.
I practiced cord-cutting visualizations, imagining every invisible tether to those who drained me being sliced away, one by one. I returned to my breath, grounding into moments of stillness and solitude. And I began to fill my own cup again—not only with mindful practices like sunlight first thing in the morning, breathwork, meditation, and a daily check-in with my body to ask what it needed—but focusing more time on my own work and creativity than my back-and-forth exchanges.
The more I withdrew my energy from what drained me, the more I found I had for myself.
Filling Your Own Cup
We talk a lot on the UNREACHABLE podcast about intentionally disconnecting from the noise of modern life to reconnect with our own wisdom. But it goes deeper than turning off notifications or logging out of social media. It’s about reclaiming your energy from everything and everyone that feels heavy, toxic, or misaligned.
It’s about choosing silence over forced conversation, solitude over half-hearted company, and your own peace over anyone else’s comfort.
On this week’s episode, “Become Unreachable to Bad Energy,” we dive into the energetics of boundaries—how to recognize when someone is siphoning your energy, and how to seal those leaks for good. We talk about intuition as a warning system, the power of saying no without explaining, and how to trust that guarding your energy is not selfish—it’s survival.
It’s Not Just About Who You Block, It’s About Who You Allow
Being Unreachable isn’t about closing yourself off from the world. It’s about becoming deeply, radically selective about who and what gets access to your energy. It’s about protecting the parts of you that are still tender, still healing, and still learning to trust themselves again.
So, ask yourself:
Who leaves you feeling drained and hollow?
Where are you leaking energy to people, platforms, or patterns that no longer serve you?
How can you begin to pull your energy back, one small boundary at a time?
Your Energy Is Sacred
It’s time to become Unreachable to Bad Energy—to guard your peace with everything you have, and to stop apologizing for the silence that keeps you sane.
This week, let’s start by becoming Unreachable to everything that siphons, drains, or dulls our light.
Listen to the full episode of UNREACHABLE now—and let’s reclaim our energy, together.
Here’s to good energy.
Rea & Alex
